Posted by admin on March 31, 2010
First off, sorry for the bad spelling in the question; the character limit forced me to spell badly.
I’ve had a minor crush on a guy who’s been a friend of mine for the last couple years. We hang out a lot and are currently working on a major project together (it’s going to last the next few months) so we’re spending even more time together than usual (we used to talk for a few hours a week, now it’s more like a few a day). I don’t know, but lately I’ve really started falling for him. When it was just a light attraction, I was fine hanging out with him and being a friend, but it’s just really starting to hurt lately. Everytime he hugs me, or does something sweet like walk me back to my dorm when I don’t have an umbrella, it feels nice for a moment then completely awful. I’d just like some advice on what to do. I don’t want to ruin our friendship, because I do care about him a lot.
There is a huge part of me that’s saying that I should tell him and that I will regret it if I don’t. But on the other side, I’m calculating odds in my head and it seems really slim to none. He’s an incredibly sweet guy and for every moment that I think there might be something there are five more that say that he just sees me as a friend. And, I think that he’s starting to suspect that I have feelings for him, but I can’t really tell.
The truth of the matter is that however many times girls say to themselves that a guy won’t make a move for fear of losing a friendship there are ten other instances which prove that they don’t. Besides which, I’m not the kind of girl that guys like. I’m not pretty or flirty. I’m the one who can spout off random literary and film trivia, who has million things in common with them and who they talk to about what they’re thinking and their fears. I’m the girl who has a million guy friends, but no boyfriend. And, I accept this about my life, I know this is who I am, and I’ve never resented it until now.
He’s out of my league and I know it, but I just can’t help feeling this way. (Pictures down below to show my point.)
And, my god, this is long and rambling.
I guess what it boils down to is a question: If you don’t think that it’s likely that the person you’re starting to fall for feels the same way, do you still tell him? Also to people who will inevitably be rude, I already know he’s out of my league. He’s a 7, I’m a 2. I know it. I don’t need you to remind me.
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(By the way, the t-shirt was a joke made for a playwrite convention.)
I have the same problem. (I’m in middle school though..so..)
Anyway, the guy I like does the same exact thing: he does favors for me, helps me with a difficult subject, and he always wants me to be in projects with him.
A word of advice: don’t tell him, at least not yet.
If you tell this guy that you like him and he doesn’t feel the same way, he might feel awkward and confused on how to reject you politely.
I would wait until your relationship as friends gets more intense. When you can tell that he has true feelings for you too, I’d tell him calmly and kindly.
Good luck! 
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